Donovan With Down's
A Mother's Blog

Donovan's Story... so far

So I have a son with Down syndrome.  Please note that I said "son" first.  When my son was born one of my sisters said something to me that has always stayed with me.  He is a person first.  His particulars are secondary.  For that reason I have always said, "I have a child with Down syndrome", or "my son has Down syndrome".  I know it may be a strange quirk but people with differences are people first.  They are your sons, daughters, brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts, and grandchildren first.

Donovan is now 25 years old.  We have had a very interesting life.  There may have been a few things that my family was not able to do because we have a child with special needs but the experiences we have had, the people we have met, and the lives that have impacted us because we embraced this new world far outweighs any thoughts of what might have been.

Throughout the past 25 years we have had our share of ups and downs.  We have had many happy times and, like every family, a few rough times.  Some people think finding out you have a child with Down syndrome is devastating.  I have always said that you play the hand you're dealt.  Some people will fold immediately and others may bow out soon after they hear less than perfect news.  But sometimes, if you stick with the hand and play it, you could end up winning much more than you ever imagined.  For that reason, I would like to share some of my life experiences with you.